It also fucks you up something fierce. There’s something about this quote that I don’t like, and I think it’s the undertone of romanticism. You don’t need an unstable childhood to appreciate calmness, and losing your cravings for excitement…that’s no way to live.
Being raised in an unstable childhood makes you trust less, rely on yourself to the point of developing an unhealthy level of independence, and screws up your perception of the world around you, so that you view the slightest sign of anger or failure as the end of your world. I would not wish an unstable childhood on anyone, and I’m not about to latch onto the idea that having one makes me better somehow. Because it doesn’t. I’m still struggling to move past the issues my household gave me.
Stability is important. Stability sets you up for success. What in God’s name would make anyone think that being given a shitty, cracked, porous foundation to stand on as a child is preferable?